Neither one of them should be dead today. That is the point. Abortion does not bring freedom, or solve problems, or show compassion. It just kills. It does not bring freedom or solutions to problems or show compassion. It just kills.
WASHINGTON, D.C. (Catholic Online) - How do we tell the truth about the deaths of Jennifer Morbelli and her baby girl, Madison, without risking more pain to her husband and family? That's been my internal dilemma all week since the news of her death made the media rounds. (Not the major media, mind you. They don't seem to want to breathe a word of this abortion fiasco.) No one wants to add insult to injury here.
This is the understandable caution you can feel in every reporting of her death, and it silences the obvious truth: neither one of them should be dead today. That is the point. But the decision to kill little Madison also resulted in the death of her mother. It didn't have to be this way. That is the evil of abortion. It kills. It does not bring freedom or solutions to problems or show compassion. It just kills. (Jennifer Morbelli died February 7, 2013, after having a late-term abortion -- 33 weeks -- committed by Leroy Carhart.)
A pronouncement of "fetal abnormalities" is received as the final, authoritative word, and immediate death is given as the best option -- the "right choice." There is no room for life, or possibilities, or love or faith or God. So many moms and dads receive such news every day regarding their babies in the womb, and in their shock, their sadness, their fear, they are steered down the road that leads only to death.
With doom and gloom being handed them as a certainty, they are persuaded that the compassionate thing to do is to choose to play God themselves, and decide their child's fate now.
We know it happens every day, all over. Vulnerable parents have hope snatched away, and unbearable suffering promised instead. Nightmarish visions of handicapped children replace the happy daydreams, and terrible imaginings take over.
Sometimes the fatal outcome predicted is indeed correct. Nobody is guaranteed a perfectly healthy child.
Yet it seems three very important things are never taken into consideration: 1. Doctors and tests are often wrong. 2. Parents are often much stronger than they think they are. 3. God. God may want to surprise you in ways you can't predict right now. He certainly gives grace to handle whatever He asks of you. And a 4th thing as well: What you feared most may not be as horrible as you thought it would be. Go back to #3.
The bottom line is, though, that even if the worst news is true, killing the child in the womb is never the answer, never the compassionate choice, never the right choice, never the best option. Babies are not property we can dispose of when they are deemed damaged beyond repair, or just beyond our comfort level. Babies are not things we can order up when we want them, and reject the "defective" ones. Nobody is entitled to only the baby they envision in their daydreams.
But in a society where babies are now commodities and killing the child in the womb is considered a good thing for women -- a "right" that must be protected and expanded and publicly-funded -- we believe we are entitled to receive only what we want, and entitled to reject anything we don't want. Even our own children.
We are convinced that anything less than perfect health equals an unacceptable "quality of life", and that "compassion" demands we prevent such imperfection from ever seeing the light of day. Some people might say that's a terribly flippant way of characterizing it, but is it? Babies are "terminated" every day for far less than severe brain abnormalities. In fact, some are exterminated simply for being girls.
When we take unto ourselves the power and the authority to decide life and death, then the life we deem less than quality, less than ideal, less than everything we hoped, too full of uncertainty is now expendable with near impunity because it's the "best option for everyone." We forget that we are so very often, wrong.
We forget that God is God. We forget that life is a gift. We forget that suffering is not the end of the world. We forget that love is stronger than death.
I can't fathom the grief and the burden that T.J. Morbelli and Jennifer's family will carry for the rest of their lives. It is high time we all learned the lesson and put an end to the killing. It did not have to be this way for this family. It's heartbreaking that Madison's parents chose death for her and did not allow her to be born. It's heartbreaking that that choice cost Jennifer her life as well. It's an intolerable tragedy because it never should have happened. It was not a freak accident that no one could have prevented.
It was a choice. The "choice" that is supposed to be so necessary for women's equality and freedom... what a sham. It is never necessary to kill the child in the womb. Furthermore, it is a deadly con to say that such late-term abortions must be kept legal for the sake of women's health. Jennifer Morbelli is dead. I'd say that was hardly necessary for her health.
How long are we going to keep protecting human butchers like Leroy Carhart? How long are we going to justify the barbarism that goes on in his so-called clinic? (A clinic, by the way, that the state of Maryland didn't even see fit to inspect before granting his license the day before Morbelli died. Way to go, Maryland.) He is no friend or champion of women and their health.
The truth is that late-term abortions are extremely risky to the mother's life, a fact Carhart seems to be both well aware of and intent on hiding, given his written instructions to his patients NOT to go to the ER if they need medical attention after the abortion. How convenient for him; protective of his profits and the whitewashed version of abortion he wants the nation to see.
Surely childbirth would have preserved Jennifer's life. It would have given Madison's parents the chance to hold her, to kiss her and shower her with their love, even if her life was quickly ended by disease. Is not the memory of love given and life shared far better than just cold death? As Karen Santorum said to me so eloquently, "You never lose with love." And she knows of what she speaks.
She and her husband, Rick Santorum, lost their son, Gabriel, when the in-utero surgery to save his life (which was successful, by the way) sadly resulted in a uterine infection that caused his premature delivery, and after a few hours, their beautiful boy died in their arms.
Doctors and hospitals across the country need to start providing perinatal hospice to parents like the Morbelli's. Genuine care and compassion demand that life be respected and cherished and protected, not slaughtered the way Madison and her mother were. You won't find a family who chose life, who was given the gift of perinatal hospice who said in the end, "We wish we'd just aborted our child." You never lose with love.
No one will ever know now what Madison's life would have been except God. All we know now is that a baby girl was murdered in the womb by a reckless, greedy butcher, her mother died as a result, and her father now lives with the unspeakable grief of losing his wife along with their child. It's the tragedy that abortion brings.
Nothing good comes from choosing death over life. (We also know that thus far, no one in our legal system has the will or courage to hold Leroy Carhart accountable for the carnage he profits from. No, instead he is hailed as a hero by abortion proponents.)
It's a tragedy that should never have happened. It should never happen again.
Jennifer Hartline is a grateful Catholic, a proud Army wife and homeschooling mother of three children. She is a contributing writer for Catholic Online. Visit her online at Wake Up, Deborah!
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