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By Mary Beth Bonacci

6/10/2013 (2 years ago)

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I like chivalry.

Yes, I admit it. I know I'm not supposed to, but I actually like it when men open doors for me, and take my coat, and do all of those other little things that modern feminism says I should find horrifying and offensive. I know it's supposed me make me feel belittled and patronized, but instead I find it makes me feel special, and feminine, and even protected and somehow treasured.

Is that so wrong?

Is chivalry really dead?

Is chivalry really dead?


By Mary Beth Bonacci

Catholic Match (

6/10/2013 (2 years ago)

Published in Marriage & Family

Keywords: catholic dating, Catholic singles, chivalry, dating, dignity of women, Is chivalry dead?, love, Relationships, respect

I get their thinking-that doing little things for women implies that we are incapable of doing them for ourselves. And so, chivalry has been called "benevolent sexism," with those nice men stooping down to assist us helpless little women-folk. If that's what chivalry really was, I'd resent it, too. But that's not how I see it. Sure, I'm perfectly capable of opening my own doors. But I see it as a sign of respect-for me and for women in general-when a man does that for me. It is an acknowledgement of the politically incorrect truth that men in general are physically stronger than women. By putting that strength at the service of women, a man is signaling that he respects her, and that he has no intention of using it against her. I have been, I hate to admit, afraid that chivalry is indeed dead-or at least slowly dying. I still see it here are there, mostly among older gentlemen and the younger ones ... [Read the rest of the article at]


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