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By Jennifer Hartline

9/16/2009 (5 years ago)

Catholic Online (www.catholic.org)

It's time for a sexual counter-revolution which liberates men and women, honors marriage and reaffirms the dignity of human love.

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By Jennifer Hartline

Catholic Online (www.catholic.org)

9/16/2009 (5 years ago)

Published in Marriage & Family


CHESAPEAKE, Va. (Catholic Online) - With our government on the verge of passing health care legislation that, absent explicit language placed within it prohibiting Federal funds from being used for abortion, will mandate abortion coverage paid for by you and me, I figure nowís a good time for a radical discussion about sex. Weíll never change the way we view abortion until we change our attitudes about sex. Itís time for a sexual counter-revolution.

The sanctity of human life from the moment of conception throughout all of life up to and including a natural death is the only foundation our society will ever be able to stand upon if we hope to flourish as a truly free people. Itís quite obvious our foundation is crumbling. To repair it, we must go back to square one and correct our ideas about sex. Unless we give sexual intercourse its due reverence, weíll never give human life its due reverence. The two can never be separated, as Pope Paul VI tried to tell the world in his prophetic encyclical, Humanae Vitae. If we donít regard all life as sacred Ė and thus the creative act of sexóthen we will always find ways to rationalize and justify the murder of a child as a ďright.Ē

Iím not naively suggesting that prior to 1973 people were all living chaste and faithful lives and that sex was held in the highest esteem by all, to be expressed within the bond of marriage. I am saying that the decision to legalize the killing of our preborn children cemented a poisonous shift in our mentality, and that poison has corroded every aspect of our society, especially our treatment of sex. We replaced responsibility with ďrightsĒ and itís been a downhill race toward insatiable debauchery ever since.

One criticism I hear often from people is that I and other Pro-Life folks ignore the real cause of abortions: unexpected/unwanted pregnancies. What needs to be addressed, they say, is the ďtragedy of unexpected and unwanted pregnancies.Ē Do you see what I mean? Pregnancy is a ďtragedyĒ Ė not a miracle of life. Thereís that poisonous shift in our thinking. The creation of a new human being is a tragedy if we didnít expect it or want it. The tragedy isnít the new life; itís our self-centered, warped perspective.

Okay then, letís address it head-on. There is a solution to the problem of nearly all unwanted and unexpected pregnancies, but itís the only one that nobody wants to talk about or consider seriously. The answer is so obvious, it just begs to be shouted out, but no one wants to do it because itís the action that requires the most of us. As soon as I say it, Iíll be laughed at and called an idealistic nincompoop (or worse). I donít care. It might not be politically correct, but it must be said!

We all know exactly how babies are made so if you are unwilling to lovingly accept a child into your life, then donít have sex! Period.

Sex isnít a right; itís a profound gift that serves a profound purpose. It isnít just a healthy, human activity; itís also the ultimate expression of love and selflessness. Itís not a recreational pastime with no strings attached. Sex comes with some huge responsibilities, and if weíre not willing to accept ALL those responsibilities, we have no business having sex. Itís that simple.

The tragedy isnít that women are unexpectedly pregnant; itís that people are selfishly indulging in sex and then refusing to accept the natural outcome. Women do not simply ďfind themselvesĒ pregnant, as though they had nothing to do with it. It isnít magic that happens without their involvement. (In no way am I speaking here to women who are victims of violent assault. No woman chooses to be raped.)

Our real freedom and power lies in that very first choice: to have sex or not. Why are women only free and empowered if they have the ďrightĒ to kill their babies? Are we not capable of using our brains and connecting the dots? ďIf I choose to do this, hereís what will probably happen. Itís my life and my choice, so Iíd better make the wise choice.Ē It seems to me that a woman whoís truly interested in preserving her choices will be smart and not put herself in a vulnerable position in the first place. I never said it was easy Ė only that it was simple. Our choices need to be made while we still have our clothes on.

Next comes the argument that not having sex is completely unrealistic and impossible, so we must have better birth control. Here again is the poisonous shift in our thinking. Birth control simply further engraves on our hearts the idea that pregnancy is a tragedy and babies are a burden to be avoided. When unexpected/unwanted pregnancy occurs, it isnít because our birth control has failed, itís because our sense of morality and responsibility has failed. The creation of new life should always be expected because thatís what sex is for! Thatís why even married couples are called to abstain when they have serious reasons for not conceiving a child.

And letís stop buying Planned Parenthoodís talking points that say many women have abortions because they think they have no other choice. Baloney. There are other choices, but they wonít be as convenient as killing the baby. Itís in Planned Parenthoodís best interest to portray women as pitiable, helpless, forgotten sufferers without any recourse besides abortion, but itís a lie. Women need to stop wearing the victim mask and take responsibility for their lifeís choices, the most important of which is whether or not to have sex. Where is a womanís personal accountability in all of this? Where is a manís?

It goes without saying that society must step up and care for the needs of pregnant women and their babies, encouraging all mothers to choose life. (I believe the Church works very hard to do that.) It also goes without saying that men and women need to think about the consequences of their actions and be willing to accept responsibility, and responsibility does not equal abortion.

Is everyone expected to be "perfect", in the sense of never making a mistake or exercise bad judgment? Of course not. Iím simply saying that when it comes to sex, we all know what happens! Our lapses in judgment can never, ever justify killing preborn babies. Once a new person enters the equation, the only choice that remains is LIFE. America needs to stop selling abortion as a legitimate and reasonable choice. Itís not a safety net or a back-up plan. We need to return to the knowledge that sex is sacred because life is sacred.

Itís time for a radical revolution of responsibility; a revolution of reverence for sex and reverence for life.It is time for a sexual counter-revolution which liberates men and women, honors marriage and reaffirms the beauty and dignity of human love in the Divine Plan.

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Jennifer Hartline is a Catholic Army wife and stay-at-home mother of three precious kids who writes frequently on topics of Catholic faith and daily living. She is a contributing writer for Catholic Online.

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