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Why your daughter has a 1 in 5 chance of being raped, and what to do about it

Rape is also a man's issue.


We live in an amazing country during a wondrous time. We delight in how modern we are with the internet, swift transportation, the best medical care in history, and so on. We pride ourselves on how allegedly progressive we are as a society, with our races integrated, our women allowed to vote, hold office, and share top spots in every discipline. America is a wondrous country, so why are we still sometimes such barbarians when it comes to our treatment of women? 

Women are routinely victimized in America because our culture still permits, and even encourages such barbarism.

Women are routinely victimized in America because our culture still permits, and even encourages such barbarism.

LOS ANGELES, CA (Catholic Online) - We are fixated on the news from India, as several men who gang-raped and murdered a woman on a New Delhi bus face trial for their infamous crime. However, we know, perhaps subtly, that rape is also an issue in our own country.

Discussing rape in America is still too often an unpopular proposition. Last fall, as many as five Republican politicians mentioned rape in their speeches, and all were swiftly vilified and condemned for remarks which were widely regarded as insensitive towards women. The remarks were,at times,  ill advised, unscientific, and grossly insensitive.

Were we too harsh on them? Are women just too sensitive? Was this just an opportunistic strike by the left against good, moral men?

The fact is women have a right to be sensitive on this issue. We have a genuine problem with rape and it must be addressed. According to essayist Rebecca Solnit, a rape is reported in the United States about every 6.2 minutes. That's going to place a burden on any 911 and police response system, not to mention medical facilities and the amount of investigation and prosecution that must also follow. The price tag for these crimes likely ranges well into the billions of dollars annually, and that's just the law enforcement and medical costs incurred by the epidemic.

We'd be entirely shallow if we only examined this from a fiscal perspective. What matters more is the emotional devastation that results from these crimes. Rape is a deeply traumatizing, intimate crime. It strikes at the core of the person and compromises their sense of safety, well being, and overall health. It can even kill. Whether by suicide or by added violence, about a thousand women in the US die each year after falling victim to some kind of sex crime.

Solnit estimates that one in five women will be raped at some point in their lifetimes, and nine out of 10 rapes will go unreported.

This means a little baby girl, born today, has a 20 percent chance of being raped during her lifetime. Yet, she has only a 1 in 10 chance of reporting the crime to the authorities. She has less chance than that of seeing justice done to her attacker. Finally, the odds that her attacker will be dealt a full measure of justice are even slimmer than that. This means that perhaps 95 percent or worse, of all rapists escape justice and are free to strike again.

What's behind this? the exsitence of Misogyny for one. Despite the advances we have made to women's equality and rights, we sometimes still treat women as second-class citizens in many respects. Women can still earn less than men, can be more likely to be victims rather than victimizers, and live in a society where they are still too often treated as sexual objects.

Our society actively encourages and facilitates sexual objectification via liberal use of contraceptives, immodest fashions, and a pervasive culture of machismo, where women are objects of desire to be conquered, rather than coequal partners in society. Our popular media is no help, reinforcing the sexual status of women through ads which appeal to men based on sexual appeal. Even the books on our shelves appeal to sex to sell.

Let's not construe this as blaming women however. Even if a woman dresses provocatively; or even if a women wears nothing, it is still not an invitation to rape. Also, it should not be assumed that most rapes are the result of women binge drinking at college parties while committing the mistake of dressing poorly amongst men raging with testosterone.

The vast majority of rapes involve ordinary women going about everyday business. Rape happens in homes, during dates, and at work. A few even happen in public. Last year, women have been notoriously raped in parks, and even on buses.

Certainly, some of the victims have been promiscuous women, but these are a very narrow minority - but so what? Let's be clear, even in the throes of passion, if a woman says no, or stop, then it is rape. Even if a relationship is established, it can still be rape.

Any time a person is compelled against their will to participate in any sexual activity, it is rape, no other circumstances apply, period.

Understand that victims range from old women to young children, some virtually babies. Recent headlines have told lurid tales of young girls being gang raped by fellow teenagers.

Even men and boys have been occasionally victimized. Yes, men suffer from rape too.

This is a sickness which pervades our country. It is a civil rights issue. Yes, it is a women's issue, but it's a man's issue as well. Every woman raped has a father, and many have husbands. How can a man say he enjoys a free society when half of its population are subject to victimization?

There are plenty of sick people out there who will perpetrate sexual crimes against others, however, the vast majority of sex ...

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  1. eithena
    4 months ago

    Listen when you think the biggest moneymaker in the world is porn what can we expect so long as this keeps going there will be no end to it i dont know how its going to stop but i do know that women and children always pay the highest price

  2. Jade Riani
    4 months ago

    I think you forgot a KEY piece of information in this spiel. Most women are raped by someone they know! Sure random people commit rape but it is much more common for someone the victim knows to commit the crime. Rape is also not about immodesty, its about control. Many commit this horrible crime simply for the sake of proving they are in control.

    You also greatly trivialized male rape. In Africa it is a huge problem with men often having no where to go because it is seen as "unmanly." The same sentiment pervades in our country too. The FBI doesn't even acknowledge that men can be raped so male victims that go unreported may be just as high or higher than unreported female victims. Often times even when boys are statutorily raped they are forced to pay child support!!!! Where does that come from? As a mother of a son if that happened to my kid I would be furious!!!!

    I also don't think you can address rape without considering false rape too. We all saw in the case with the boys from Duke (they were unwise) what happened. It is in fact very easy for a woman to accuse a man of rape and he is pretty much at a loss. That is why I advised my son to stay away from girls as long as possible. We need to educate our sons how easy it is for them to loose their futures when it comes to rape (false or not). When I told my son about it, he definitely understood what I was telling him. Thankfully he will not see any girl in private now. Some girls have teased him about it but he doesn't need to be around them.

  3. Emma
    4 months ago

    I agree with most of what the writer puts forth with the exception of extending the statute of limitations. Without physical evidence, accusations morph into a "he said, she said " and we also can't forget that every young man accused of a sex crime may not be guilty. We should educate young women and young men to report these crimes immediately so that evidence can be gathered in a timely manner. This assists with the prosecution and also defense of the unjustly accused.

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