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Priest starts homes for unwed mothers as the pro-life ‘next step’

ARLINGTON, Va. (CNS) – Providing homes for unwed mothers is a necessary outreach for the pro-life movement, said Father Stefan Starzynski, a priest of the Arlington Diocese who has started two homes for unwed mothers.

WOMAN HOLDS CHILD AT HOME FOR UNWED MOTHERS – Evelyn James holds 10-month-old Andrew as her daughter, Rebekah, 4, looks on at the Paul Stefan Home for Unwed Mothers in Orange County, Va., Oct. 2. Andrew is the son of Erin Urbain, who stayed at the home during her pregnancy. James and her husband, Randy, rejected the advice of doctors to abort their son when they learned his lungs would not develop. He lived for an hour after birth, and the couple decided to plunge themselves into the pro-life movement, including the founding of the home for unwed mothers. (CNS)

WOMAN HOLDS CHILD AT HOME FOR UNWED MOTHERS – Evelyn James holds 10-month-old Andrew as her daughter, Rebekah, 4, looks on at the Paul Stefan Home for Unwed Mothers in Orange County, Va., Oct. 2. Andrew is the son of Erin Urbain, who stayed at the home during her pregnancy. James and her husband, Randy, rejected the advice of doctors to abort their son when they learned his lungs would not develop. He lived for an hour after birth, and the couple decided to plunge themselves into the pro-life movement, including the founding of the home for unwed mothers. (CNS)

He feels it is only a matter of time before Roe v. Wade, the 1973 Supreme Court decision legalizing abortion, will be overturned and the pro-life movement needs to be ready to respond to pregnant women who need a safe haven.

"We have done the marches, we have held the banners, this is absolutely the next step," added the priest, who is parochial vicar at St. Mary of Sorrows Parish in Fairfax.

Last year Father Starzynski opened the Paul Stefan Home for Unwed Mothers, which is named for a baby born without lungs who survived for one hour. So far, nine women have stayed in the home and six babies have been born. Currently, the home has three residents. By the end of this year, another house will open on the same 50-acre property in Orange County.

The priest is confident Roe will be overturned, an event he predicts will be like the fall of the Berlin Wall in Germany in 1989.

"It's not a matter of if, but rather a matter of when," he said about the law being overturned. "We're moving in that direction. It's only a matter of time. No evil can stand on its own."

"We are going to have millions of unwed mothers" when that happens, he said. Currently, about 37 percent of all babies born in the U.S. are born to unwed mothers, he noted.

In an interview with the Arlington Catholic Herald, newspaper of the Arlington Diocese, he said that he has relied on God's help in his efforts to help unwed mothers. The initial idea to open a home for them started with what he described as a deep stirring in his soul.

Two years ago he was praying for a Catholic couple, Randy and Evelyn James, who were expecting their sixth child, but there were complications during the pregnancy. His prayers for the family were intertwined with prayers for a home for unwed mothers.

When doctors learned that the couple's baby would not develop lungs, doctors advised the Jameses to have a late-term abortion, something they refused to consider. It was during that time when the couple knew in their hearts that, "whether or not he survives, we have to plunge ourselves in the pro-life movement," said Evelyn James.

When their son, Paul Stefan, was born, his middle name was chosen in honor of the priest who prayed for him unceasingly. The baby was baptized and lived for about one hour.

Although it was a time of deep anguish for them, it also was a time of peace for the couple who said they knew God had a distinct plan. After Paul Stefan's funeral, the couple began to hear more about the home for unwed mothers and felt called to be a part of it.

The next year, as Father Starzynski continued to pray about the possibility of opening a home for unwed mothers, he told his parishioners that he was convinced five of them would donate $1,000 to the project, and five did. At the time he was parochial vicar at St. Patrick Church in Fredericksburg.

Another parishioner told the priest that she and her husband would lease him two homes and 50 acres of land for $1 a year.

"So many extraordinary things have happened ... that I almost expect the extraordinary ... and lots of miracles," said the priest, who believes the Holy Spirit is guiding the project.

After renovation work was completed on the two houses, the first home opened last September. Various people and organizations donated furniture and their services to the project.

Women can stay for up to two years, which helps them get back on their feet. After an appearance on the Eternal Word Television Network, Father Starzynski began receiving hundreds of e-mails from people all over the world interested in starting homes for unwed mothers.

"God had to pick the simple people" to carry out this work, the priest said, because simple people will "do whatever God wants them to do."

God does not pick "the people who know exactly what they're doing," the priest added, because they will see the logistics of carrying out such a project as too overwhelming and won't move forward with it.

Father Starzynski said he often thinks of the apostle Peter getting out of the boat and walking toward Jesus. The faithful must emulate that act of faith, he said.

"We have to have the courage to get out of the boat," he said. "If we step out of the boat and take the next step, God will make it all happen."


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1 - 8 of 8 Comments

  1. Kim and Maria Kaufenberg
    1 year ago

    We were wondering if we could help a pregnant woman in need of a safe place to live during her pregnancy. We have a large home, all our kids have grown, so we have plenty of room and privacy. We are also about 6 miles away from the nearest hospital.Can you connect us with someone?

    We live in Minnesota, west of the twin cities.

    612-849-8448

  2. D. Gray
    3 years ago

    I am intending to renovate a home in Minnesota to be used for women who are with child. Any information you could give me in this regard would be very helpful. I intend this to be strictly for women who want to keep their babies, however I dont know what I may encounter going that direction. Please advize.

  3. Celia Blum-Guerra
    3 years ago

    The Lord seems to be moving his pieces to help us come together in this much needed cause.

    As an ex-business woman, He has called me to bridge the secular world and the spiritual world through education. A Congregation of Priests and myself, called the Escolapios, known as the Educators of the poorest of the poor, we're putting together programs to help educate parents to be better parents to their children. I call it the re-education of parents and children in the Catholic Faith. I believe these unwed mothers would benefit from this Ministry.
    They have been educating and evangelizing for the last 400 years throughout the world.



  4. Michele Hamilton
    3 years ago

    To Diane: Did anyone respond to you. I would like to partner with you. I am a civil engineer and know many contractors who would donate their services

  5. Joan Gindhart
    4 years ago

    Is there any posibility of a couple adopting these children or do all of the children go home with their mothers?

  6. Diane Streng, MA, LLP
    4 years ago

    I have had a private practice in Psychology doing individual, family, couples and marriage counseling for 18 years. I have around 20 acreas to build a home for unwed mothers that I purchased and use to be my Grandfather Joseph's farmland. I have also been a single mother for 21 years; I never married. I think I have been groomed to open a home for unwed mothers. How does one go about doing this. Is there funding for such a project?

  7. Cindy Thomas
    4 years ago

    My daughter is unwed and has 2 children, her living conditions are not the best. could you please send me some info. about your house, what someone has to do to live there or get some help.i am financially unable to help her but a little bit. your response will be appreciated. thank you Cynthi Thomas

  8. gerri romano
    4 years ago

    Bravo, Father. That's walking the walk. The Spirit of God is with you. We are here for you in Philadelphia if you need our help. I volunteered many years ago at a home for unwed mothers at Cure of Ars parish on Long Island. These homes are what we need to stop abortion. God Bless You. Gerri Romano

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