A failure to communicate
Broken lines seen as major factor is divorces
There are countless reasons as to why marriages fail. Marital infidelity, physical and mental abuse, sexual incompatibly and financial problems are just the tip of the iceberg. According to author Sonal Panse, the leading cause of divorce is a lack of communication.
LOS ANGELES, CA (Catholic Online) - "A marriage is on the rocks when the lines of communication fail. You canīt have an effective relationship if either one of you wonīt discuss your feelings, canīt talk about your mutual or personal issues, will keep your resentments simmering under wraps, and expect your partner to guess what the whole problem is about," Panse says.
In addition, marriages fail "because people rarely discuss their expectations in detail prior to marriage, are less willing to work on their marriages afterwords, and would like quick solutions rather than having to resolve issues. People have gotten divorced for trivial reasons like snoring."
Panse adds that people who come from broken homes are more likely to head to divorce court than those who do not. "Divorce seems less like a big deal if you have seen your parents go through with it."
Going against modern rationale is the fact that "people who cohabit before marriage have higher rates of divorce than people who didnīt cohabit before marriage," Panse says.
"In many cases, quite a few of the problems that cause divorce have existed in the coupleīs relationship long before they got married. The problems were either not acknowledged or were ignored in the fond hope that marriage might offer a miraculous panacea. And, guess what, it doesnīt. Nobody can make you feel better about yourself and you canīt change and save anybody," Panse says.
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Pope Benedict XVI's Prayer Intentions for January 2013
General Intention: The Faith of Christians. That in this Year of Faith Christians may deepen their knowledge of the mystery of Christ and witness joyfully to the gift of faith in him.
Missionary Intention: Middle Eastern Christians. That the Christian communities of the Middle East, often discriminated against, may receive from the Holy Spirit the strength of fidelity and perseverance.
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