| Home & Family

'The Catholic understanding of the universe is so good, integrated, true and beautiful. It was easy for us to realize that every act of married intercourse must be both unitive and procreative.

ST. FRANCIS (Milwaukee Catholic Herald) - It is no accident there is a three year span between David and Grace Urbanski's fourth and fifth children. They planned it that way. "We had four children in four years," said Grace, an adjunct faculty member in the English department at Marquette University, and a professional vocalist and private voice teacher. "It was physically and emotionally exhausting."

While neither considered artificial contraception an option, they realized that the form of natural family planning that they were using was not working. Married 14 years, the couple, who belong to St. Mary Visitation Parish, Elm Grove, began with the sympto-thermal method taught by the Couple to Couple League. While effective for many, Grace's fertility cycle was erratic and she was unable to achieve an accurate morning basal body temperature reading. "And, if you are out of bed four times a night with babies and have to hit the ground running in the morning, there is no such thing as a stable temperature reading," she explained.

During her fourth pregnancy, Grace wondered if practicing natural family planning was worth it. She prayed in earnest that God would provide an alternative.

"After I delivered my fourth baby, I came to see how God answered my prayers in three ways," she said. "We had this wonderful new person to love. We discovered the ClearBlue fertility monitor and became involved in Marquette University's test program, and we became acquainted with other earthy, vibrant young couples who use NFP and who could support us."

The monitoring system detects ovulation by identifying the surge of Luteinizing Hormone (LH) in a woman's urine. LH is always present in a woman's urine, but levels surge in the middle of her cycle, causing ovulation.

Neither Grace nor David, a Latin teacher at Brookfield Academy and convert to Catholicism, ever thought about bringing artificial contraception into their marriage. Both were captivated by the way Pope John Paul II expressed the gift of the human body and sexuality into modern theological understanding.

"The Catholic understanding of the universe is so good, integrated, true and beautiful. It was easy for us to realize that every act of married intercourse must be both unitive and procreative," Grace explained. "We could never fully be open to each other if we were not fully open to God's will for our life together, including our sex life. If I sincerely believe that God is the author of life, and if I know that the way humans generate life is through sex, then it follows that it is God himself who visits us in sex. Using contraception would be like inviting a dear friend to visit at our house and then barricading the doorway when he approaches."

Remaining open to life is not always easy for the parents of Clare, 13, Paul, 11, Ann, 10, Jack, 8, and Rose 5. Negative comments about the size of their family and criticism of their unwillingness to use artificial contraception is all too common - and hurtful.

"One friend argued that if God blessed scientists with the knowledge of how to use chemicals to disrupt the woman's fertility, then we can use the birth control pill gratefully," said Grace. "Well, I'll bet we can all think of scientific discoveries that threaten rather than enhance human dignity. I am grateful that "Humanae Vitae" encouraged scientists to find more accurate means of determining the fertile period of a woman's cycle. The ClearBlue monitor we now use is evidence of that kind of scientific progress which allows David and me to make free and knowledgeable decisions about what to do when I am fertile."

Bringing natural family planning methods into a sacramental marriage is different than artificial contraception in that there are no side effects, it doesn't interfere with a sexual act to render it sterile, and it depends on a couple's commitment to one another and their willingness to abstain from intercourse during fertile times if pregnancy needs to be postponed.

Author and speaker Gina Loehr studied the Creighton Method of natural family planning to monitor her irregular cycles and uncover underlying problems a year before meeting her husband Joe, whom she married in April 2007.

Under the guidance of a Creighton-trained physician, Gina learned to chart biological markers which let her know when she was naturally fertile or infertile, as well as telegraph abnormalities in her health. The Creighton Method helped her unravel mysteries in her own menstrual cycle.

"I isolated some hormonal imbalances through a combination of charting and blood work," she said. "So even before Joe and I were married, we were aware of some potential troubles I might have had with fertility, and were able to correct them through hormone therapy."

The method helped them to initially postpone pregnancy and then to achieve pregnancy ...